How to Deal With Your Stubborn Child?

All children are having different nature and behavior. Some children become stubborn and rebellious nature. First we need to understand what these are:

Stubborn meaning showing obstinate determination not to change one’s position or attitude on something, especially in spite of good reasons to do. 

Rebellious meaning who is not easily controlled.

Stubborn kids shows this behavior any time like while taking bath, eating food, during study or doing their school home work  (study) etc. It is not necessary that only toddlers have stubbornness but you can also notice it in the children of the age group of 3-9. It is due to parents unable to understand and handle their toddlers’ this behavior on time; later it may turn to the teenage rebellion/problems. 

Dealing with stubborn and rebellious kids is really a tough task for parents. Parents should have special skills to handle such children. Some time there will be required special care to deal with the situation. It is a sensitive task so parents require lots of patience and tricks while dealing with it without making their kids feel hurt or disappointed.

Here are a few suggestions for the parents which can be followed to deal with the stubborn child: 

Avoid argument with stubborn kid

Most of the parents do mistake they argue and force to their child to rectify. It is not correct way to handle your stubborn kid. By that way your children will be into the stress and undergo to the lots of tensions. Never do argument and must have to take the situation to such a stage where children feel that you are understanding them.  When your children insist on doing or not doing something ask from them that what’s bothering them can do the trick. 

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Offer options to your child

Most of the times when you offer something to your stubborn children then they deny to do it. For example; If you offer to drink milk shake :

     Mom offer: “I am bringing milk shake for you to drink.”

     Answer: No! I don’t want to drink. 

They will directly deny it. to have it. Give two options according to the interest of your stubborn child’s behavior. Like:

     Mom offer: “Do you want to drink banana shake or chocolate shake?”

     Answer: “I would like to drink chocolate shake.”

This is also an example of closed communication. If you offer two things then child will think that you will bring which he/she will choose. Their opinion matters.

Communicate with your child

You should not be rude towards your child due to their stubbornness and Rebellious behavior. You should listen to your child. Understand what they are trying to convey you as it may resolve most of the problem. Parents should always do friendly behavior with their stubborn children, specially when they are tensed or angry otherwise they will feel like abandoned or unloved.

Praise your stubborn child

You should praise your child's work. When they will do any good work then don't forget to praise them by saying some magical words like "Nice!", "I proud on you!", "Keep it up!" etc. It will boost-up their moral and they will do extra efforts for doing their future tasks. In some days you will feel change in them.  Praising will also develop a positive behavior in them. Parent child relationship also becomes stronger.

Create a friendly and positive environment

You should create a loving happy atmosphere at home. Do not keep office or business problems in front of children. You are role model of them. If you look scared and worried then how your children will be happy? They will learn the same thing and their attitude will be develop accordingly. Do not quarrel and debate with your spouse in front of your children. Children's have little wit, it can have adverse effects on their mind [Also read "Are you in happy married life"]. Always be happy in front of your kids so that they feel comfortable. If your stubborn kids feel friendly with you then slowly they will start sharing each and every thing with you.

Give diversion to stubborn mind

It is a very effective parenting technique to deal with your stubborn child. diversion is an activity that diverts the mind from tedious or serious concerns. You need to observe your stubborn kids' activities. Suppose he looks anything in the market and ask to purchase for him/her. But that is not good [health wise / cost wise], you need to use diversion technique. You can immediately say for diversion [directing to another thing/toy]: 

“Hay! look at that toy. Seems to be very stylist. Unique color, different etc. What do you think?” 

Please note that your voice must be very surprising, you have to use your presence of mind and then you have to ask a question]

Your kid’s mind will immediately look at that and will observe that toy/thing carefully to answer your question.

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Dealing stubborn child while study

You need to deal with your stubborn child because he/she is not willing to do study or finishing his/her home work. You can pick anyone or more options as per your situation (Read article for more details: Do you Know How Your Child be a Good Learner?):

• Proper (comfortable, decorative etc.) sitting arrangement

• Give short breaks while study

• Teaching by using interesting methods

• Use acronym / visual ways for learning

• Embrace New Technologies

I hope that above mentioned suggestions would help to handle with your stubborn and Rebellious children. Toddlers are innocent and they also really don't know pros and cons of their activities. Keep patience and always deal your kids with love and care.

All the Best!

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How to Develop Your Child's Brain?

There are many stages of brain development of kids according to their age. As soon as kids grow their needs, requirements changes. Kids attracts towards gadgets and television (TV) because they see daily new things in it. Many parents also think that by engaging their kids in mobile gadgets or video games will keep them busy and will not disturb them.  But watching too much of TV, playing games and using mobile gadgets slowly becomes hurdle for their brain growth or they also suffer with many health issues. Kids become addicted of it and it also impact on their study as well. [Also read article “Is Your Child Smart Phone Addicted???”].

Most of the part of brain development (90%) completed up to the age of 8. This article will help parents to follow some best practices which would help them to develop their kids brain:

Serve Complete Food

Milk is a complete food for human organism as it contains all kinds of nutrients for body growth as well as brain development. For infants, mother’s milk constitutes a complete diet and for kids between the age group of 2-8 it is a wholesome meal by itself. It can be served along with powdered food containing proteins, carbs, fats help them for their development. Serve milk twice a day to your kids is recommended. Use different flavors and brands of nutrient powder for the milk so that your kids will not get bored and their won’t be deficient in any essential nutrients.

Avoid Junk Food

We get start serving junk and spicy foods to our kids. They will get habitual of it and they don’t like eating food having nutrients. Serve food containing fresh Vegetables, Proteins (eggs, peas, beans, seafood etc.); Grains (whole wheat, popcorn, brown rice etc.),  Dairy products (milk, yogurt, cheese etc.), Fresh fruits. Avoid serving too much food containing sugar and saturated and trans fats.

If your kid is having any health concerns and not taking enough diet then you need to consult with pediatrician doctor or a dietitian. Children must drink plenty of water during a day. A standard diet chart is:

Ages 2 to 3: Daily Consumption for kids (boys/girls)

Protein	56 to 113 grams (2-4 oz)
Calories	1,000 to 1,200 (girls) and 1,000 to 1,400 (boys), depending on growth & activity level
Fruits	1 to 1.5 bowls
Vegetables	1 to 1.5 bowls
Grains	85-140 gram (3-5 oz)
Dairy	2 cups

Ages 4 to 8: Daily Consumption for kids (boys/girls)

Protein	85-140 gram (3-5 oz)
Calories	1,400 to 1,600 (boys and girls), depending on growth & activity level
Fruits	1 to 1.5 bowls
Vegetables	1.5 to 2.5 bowls
Grains	113 to 170 grams (4-6 oz)
Dairy	2.5 cups

Vaccinated Your Kids

When a kid get sick then its impact directly be on their mind. You need to be consult with pediatrician to get vaccination chart and follow it so that your child will be safe with some illness which we can be avoid by planned vaccinations. Follow the vaccination chart strictly and on time.

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Routine Check-up

Get your kids routine check-up with your doctor. If you feel that there are some kinds of behavior changes (mentally or physically) in your child’s routine then consult with pediatricians. Do some check-ups it may be possible that due to some nutrition deficiency they are behaving like it. If you will avoid it then it may be a big hurdle in they physical as well as mental growth.

Brain Games

Engage your kids in brain games. Now a days there are many toy’s companies which invented brain games for kids of different age groups. It help kids to entertain and develop their brains. These games may be tricky puzzles to give their brain a workout. Some free brain online games for kids are fun and help train their memory, problem-solving, concentration, and other brain skills. Other than these gadget games many companies invented toys which not only engage children engage even that aid skill development for them.

Train Toddlers in Sensory Activity

Sending and receiving information to kids mind to check they are fine tuning the use of their senses. It helps them to learn more about their surrounding. These hands-on activities and sensory play are a great way to get your kid's brain working. Encourage this exploration by engaging their senses with interesting colors, music, foods, textures and music. Provide a diversity of sensory experiences and encouraging sensory exploration at this time. Sensory integration will be absolutely necessary or important to their ability to respond effectively and appropriately to areas of the brain which respond to auditory stimuli.

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Family Time

Spend enough time with your family. Plan holiday/vacations trips with your family and kids at least twice a year. It will make them update about the new places and increase their knowledge. Talk with them, ask about their day. If they are facing any problem (may be in study) then help them to resolve their issues. All these activities will make them happy, they will feel secure. It will help them to make them mentally healthy; it will help in their healthier growth.

All the Best!

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Are you also having siblings child?

क्या आपके बच्चे भी आपस में झगड़ते हैं? [Click here to read in Hindi]

All family members welcomes a newborn at home. Elder child also gets happy to see their sibling. Often, sibling rivalry starts as children grew up; All competing for issues ranging from toys to keeping their attention.  It's common for brothers and sisters to fight. As kids reach different stages of development, their needs can significantly affect how they relate to one another.

When you return at home from your office / business then It can be frustrating and upsetting to watch and hear your kids fight with one another. A household that's full of conflict is stressful for all.

This article is a try to explain the most of the common reasons for sibling rivalry and how to handle it.

Rivalry Causes / Reasons Between Sibling Children

Jealousy

In many cases it has been found that most of the brothers and sisters experience jealousy or competition, and it can flare up in disputes and quarrels. But other factors can also affect how often children have to fight and how severe the fight is.

Distribution of attention

Before coming to a newborn one was alone and parents’ full attention was on a single child. Now this attention get distributed and even younger baby required mother's more attention and take care. Sibling child thinks that his/her parents don't give attention on him/her. They think cause for it is newborn and It also cause Jealousy for the sibling.

Love and affection 

It is true that younger baby will required attention but sometimes new baby becomes the point of attraction for all. Even parents also love to young one which cause reason for jealousy for the sibling.

Comparison between sibling

Sometimes parents start comparision between siblings which can cause for the sibling rivalry. Parents need to think that all the five fingers never be equal so they need to recognize traits of each sibling child and try to develop it in them. Don't create competitive environment between them; it can cause jealousy between them.

Handling Rivalry Between Sibling Children

Parents should create such an environment so that the situation of rivalry is not created and here are some suggestions given to handle the situation:

Attention, love and affection

It is true that young people will need to pay attention, but try to give proper attention to younger children as well. View videos and photos that were taken with the older child and tell them that when he was a little child he used to take care of him as if he is now a younger brother / sister. It will help the younger child to make understand that the little baby will need to pay more attention. [Read the article "How to Become Perfect Parents???"]

Teach sharing

Always teach sharing thing to your children. This way elder child will share his/her things with young one. It can help in handling/avoiding conflict situations.

Understanding and comparison between your children

As mentioned above that is not to compare between your children as your five fingers are not equal so qualities of all children also can't be same. You should understand the qualities of each of your child and try to develop it. Deliver work according to their abilities and characteristics. Always appreciate your child, support and give guidance.

Friendly behavior

Always share things with your family members and treat your each child as friend. This way they will share their problems with you and you can avoid the future conflicts.

Listen each child

In case, if any rivalry / conflict has been raised then you should listen both sides before your decision action. You should not be bias for young one. On many cases it happens that young one creates situation to start the problems and always elder child get punished for it.

Save books/study material

Sometimes it also cause conflict. We should restrict young child to keep distance from the elder child’s study material. Young one is not able to make difference between toys or study material. So you should be responsible for keeping it safely.

Purchase same type of things for all

Its human behavior that every one likes other's things. If there is not too much age gap then try to purchase same kind of things like cloths, toys etc. for all of your children. Also prefer to buy same color for all. Now a days you can purchase same types of cloths from online even same are available for all age groups.

I hope these small things will be helpful for avoiding sibling rivalry.

All the best!

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Have You Taught Your Children Concept of "Good Touch, Bad Touch"?

Mother to her child with good touch

क्या आपने अपने बच्चों को "गुड टच, बैंड टच" का कांसेप्ट सिखाया है?

In our daily routine we hear or read in the media about the child abuse and molestation. It is a fact that millions of girls and boys worldwide are being sexually abused by the some one known persons. The culprit can be anyone who exploits the child's vulnerability to gain sexual desire. It includes mental, physical and emotional abuse of a child. They do it via sexual acts, gestures and disposition.

Most of the time target young children are of the age 6-8 years; who are so young to understand what is going to happen. Its right time to wake-up for all parents and time to teach our kids this “Good Touch, Bad Touch” concept. As sexually abusing starts with bad touch so we need to make our children understand  the difference between both kinds of touches. We should teach them what actions they need to do when anyone try to make bad touch to them. [Also read: "How to Become Perfect Parents???"]

Even it is very difficult to make our child understand the real situation but we can give them this concept in very simple manner in which they can understand. Follow below mentioned advices to teach your young kids:

Friendship with your kids

Make you kids as your friend and ask your kid to share each and every thing during their daily routine activities. While going to school in the Van / Bus. During school hours and returning back to home whenever you were not with them. By this way they will be habitual of sharing their things with you and you can also get find out if there is any suspicious activities is happening during their day and you can let them guide correct and wrong thing.

Explain about private parts

You should explain your kids that which body parts are their private parts. You can teach them with simple language. For example you can say them if you wear a swimming costume then the body parts which are under then costume are your private parts. No one have permission to see or touch it except your parents / grand-parents while giving you bath or cleaning your body.

Good touch concept

You need to explain good touch concept to your kids. If any kind of touch which gives you happy or pleasant feeling those are good touch. For example if you parents / grand parents hugs you or give you good night kiss on your forehead then you feel happy or caring.

Bad Touch concept

When anyone touches you in the way that you feel uncomfortable and unpleasant then that it is bad touch. For example if someone pinch you, touches your private body parts, threaten you, sits you on their lap etc.

Actions required

Explain to your kids what actions they should take when they feel that anyone giving them bad touch.

• Say ‘NO’: Directly say ‘NO’ to the person who is touching badly to their body.

• Yell loudly: What they do when they see any cockroach? They just cry loudly and someone from your dear most  [parents] comes to save them. Like the same way when some give bad touch then just cry loudly. Someone near to you can come to help and will save you.

• Share with your parents: Ask them to share all things with your parents specially when anyone threaten you to not to share/say anyone of their doings.

You always can't be with them. For the betterment and protection of our kids we must share this concept with them. We should not feel hesitate to take up and speak with them on these kinds of sensitive topics. Teachers should also teach this concept to their students in the school.

All the best!

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How to Handle an Adolescent Child?

क्या आपका बच्चा भी किशोरावस्था मे है? [Click here to read in hindi]

All of us have crossed one of the most important phase of the age that is adolescence. We also call it as a teenage. It is between the age of 13 to 18 years. When children enters this age group have too much energy. They dreams a lot and want to do all efforts to achieve anything at any cost. 

During this age group they want to be look smarter, intelligent. This is only the age group when their behavior develops. They may be too happy when they will get little success or may be sad with small pushback. Sometimes adolescent became short tempered. They are getting angry on small things. Physical changes during adolescence also starts. It may depends upon each child's body. Due to some health issues it may be possible to start late physical development. 

Teenagers discuss things with colleagues instead of with their parents. For supporting their adolescent child parents must provide support and give proper guidance to them. 

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Friendly behavior

When children grow up to teenage then parents should behave them like a friend. Child will feel comfortable with parents and will discuss all problems with them. Always talk peacefully with your teenager.

Participation in decision 

It is the age when teenager thinks that he is now young and having capability of decision. So start participating them in taking small decisions. It will build-up confidence in them. They will also feel proud that their thinking matters. 

Motivation

When any of their decision will be wrong then ask them need not to worry as they are still under learning age. They should also not too much happy with their success and not to be too much sad. They should learn with their mistakes and try their best to perform their future tasks. [Also read "Do you Know How Your Child be a Good Learner???"]

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Guidance in Physical Development

There are different stages of physical development in adolescence. You should guide them. You can also consult with doctor if you are not comfortable to explain things to you teenage child. If you see any kind of teenage problems in physical developments then don't delay and consult with doctor. 

Reduce interference

Teenagers urge their identity differently but parents always want that their children do every work with their permission. It mentality increases the gaps between child and parents. Then children starts looking some one from their pear group to discuss their problems. Give them importance. They will feel comfortable with you to share things. Reduce interference in their workings. They will definitely share problems with you when they will face problems. Guide them.  

Check on their friend circle

You should keep eye on their friend circle because this is only the age when teenagers get smoking and alcohol addicts. Invite them at your home. Be friendly with them as well. [Also read "Do You Want Someone to Quit Smoking"]

Adolescence is only the age when someone can make their future. All parents should think and support them.

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How to Care for Your Sick Child?

आप अपने बीमार बच्चे की देखभाल कैसे करें? [Click here to read in Hindi]

In the daily routine lifestyle due to changes in the weather, activities, schedule our children face problems. These can be cause of illness for them. Every child has own immunity system and it depends that how strongly it is working. Some common problems kids face due to their routine lifestyle changes are fever, cold & cough, constipation, abdominal pain, headaches, body-ache. etc.

When they are sick then how to handle situation and take care you sick children in the situation? These advices may make your kids comfortable for their quick recovery and they will get well soon.

First Aid box

You should have first aid box at your home to handle the situations at first level. A first aid box is a collection of supplies and equipments that are used to give medical treatment prior to reaching to the doctor. In the market first aid kit supplies are available which you can purchase. You can also consult with your family doctor that what necessary items/medicines you can keep in your first aid box.

Doctor consultation 

Consult with the pediatrician immediately if you see unusual symptoms. Provide complete details to the doctor. Do not hide anything because doctors treat the patient based on the symptoms shows according to the time. If you are out of city / country then you can also search online doctors for consultation. Many free online doctor chats are also available now a days to discuss many kind of diseases. Now a days to discuss on many kind of diseases free online doctor chats are also available. If you feel that there is requirement for hospitalization and If you are already covered with family insurance then report to the Insurance company on time regarding it. To cover this, it is recommended to purchase Family health medical insurance plan.

Comfortable atmosphere 

Patients need different types of atmosphere so that they can feel better. Comfortable atmosphere includes noiseless, temperature control, comfortable bedding etc. While kids will be sleeping then they should not be disturbed. Room temperature should be according to the patient's situation. A patient doesn't like noise so your mobiles should be on vibration mode, speak with a low pitch.

Follow medical schedule

You should follow medical treatment schedule prescribed by doctor. give each dose to your kid on time. Don't skip any practice / medicine without discussion with pediatrician.

Talk with love & care

Talk with your kids regularly with love and care. They will not feel alone. Discuss things about their interest. They can forget their illness for some time. It will give them some comfortless.

Healthy food

Cook healthy food for them. If their is any kind of food list or schedule prescribed by doctor / dietician  then follow it. Otherwise cook light food it will be easily digestive for the patient. You can cook some delicious food for your kid which they like; first ask pediatrician. Avoid to serve junk food including fried and containing sauces.

Don't pressurize 

Ask them for not going to the school/classes. Don't pressurize them for study when they are sick. Any kind of pressure will be hurdle on their quick recovery.

Avoidance with gadgets

You child should avoid using gadgets like smart phones / Television. Restrict them to play online games, watching videos, watching tv cartoons etc. in the sick condition. Sickness impact all body parts. They may report headache and eyes tiredness. [Also read "Is Your Child Smart Phone Addicted???"]

Feel comfortable

You should feel comfortable in front of your kids. If they will see you in tense they will also feel same. You are role model for your kids. They will follow you. Say them some magical words like "You will get well soon!", "Brave kid!" etc.

All the best!

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